Common Marriage Problem - Jealousy, a Real Relationship
Jealousy in marriage is destructive, a real relationship killer and one of those common marriage problems that
needs to be resolved.
In you let feelings of jealousy develop and escalate the mind will run wild,
imagine the enemy around every corner, question everything your partner thinks, says and does. In worst case scenario’s unresolved and
unchecked jealousy has developed beyond the end of a relationship, into a long-term vendetta and in extreme cases extended to the loss of
As much as we would like to deny it, most people struggle with jealous emotions
at some point in their lives and, in marriage, it is a one of those common marriage problems that can develop from feelings of insecurity
We now live in a society where marriages are often as a result of a second, a
fifth or any number of relationships and are, in many cases, second or subsequent marriages. This is just society as we now know it but it
can leave spouses insecure, especially when a previous partner is still around, and particularly in the case when children are
It is now a common marriage
problem, for couples to enter into marriage with so much previous baggage that it often hard to settle into a secure,
trusting environment full of self worth and self-belief.
Marital jealousy develops from numerous situations and no matter how much you
try and tell yourself there is no need for concern your mind just doesn’t listen and all the while your partner continues with the
behaviour that is instilling the feeling of insecurity throughout your very soul.
Some people are natural flirts who draw the opposite sex like magnets, which, once
the ring is on the finger, leaves partners totally insecure and just waiting for the moment when they are dumped for the next
person that comes along. The partner who flirts often has no idea what impact their
actions have on their marriage. They don’t actually believe that they are doing anything wrongs but perceive their actions to be
friendly and not harmful.
No one could ever be accused of being unnecessarily jealous in the case of
infidelity beyond which, if the marriage survives (and in many instances they do), strong measures need to be put in place to
enable the cheated partner come to trust their partner again and control the feeling
Following the break up of a marriage children need to feel that the split isn’t as a
result of anything that they have done. This leaves parents over protective, desperate to make amends for one parent environment
and often at the expense of new relationships.
Another of the common marriage problems is that husbands feel
neglected when a new baby arrives no matter how much they wanted the child in the first place. A baby’s mere existence is
totally life changing with more attention towards the child and a complete ‘nose dive’ in marital relations. With the bond
between mother and child being that much closer it can leave fathers feeling neglected, unwanted and a total spare
With friends of mine the jealousy actually worked the other way with the wife feeling totally trapped after the birth of
their first child and her husband spending all his time looking after the baby. She just yearned for the life they had prior to children
when they enjoyed a good social life and spent all their free time together.
People get fixated on their goals and have no concept on how this is perceived
or how it impacts on their relationship and their family life.
Without the 100% backing of both parties, long hours and continuous travel can
prove to be a real relationship killer and, if left unchecked, one of those common marriage problems from which there is no
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